There has been an interesting turn of events over the past two day. In light of the state of the country being a powder gag, my spirit and social media have not been in alignment and then here comes a small wave of “who the hell asked you” comments.
This is how it started. In my inner circle, it is a well known fact that on any given day, I may wear a wig, hair piece, a clip in, or braids. There are several reasons for this action. First, it is my damn business. Second, I consider changing my hair style like changing my shoes. I don’t want to look the same way every day. I may wear a different hair style that reflects my mood. Next, my autoimmune conditions affect my hair from time to time and it may just need a rest to do what it is going to. Lastly, some days, it is just easier than flat ironing or curling my own. SO THERE IT IS! THE TRUTH BE KNOWN! Yet, I have a male friend who feels it is his business to comment that he only likes “natural” hair. He has even gone so far as to laugh, when I have not as much as asked for his comments. I say get over yourself. If any woman wants your opinion, they will ask.
So next was an exchange I had today. I get a text from a friend that states, “Hello beautiful, how are you?” My reply was, “Wonderful…lost 4 lbs. Working out again. How r u?” The conversation went downhill from there. I was asked why, I was losing weight, told that I am not white (no shit) and that I would be a twig (never) if I lose 25 more pounds. He thinks my size it fine. I should leave it up to God, he said and “yuk” for me losing more weight. WTH!!! Really! I replied that even after losing 30 pounds this year, I was still pre-diabetic with slightly elevated blood pressure. Celiac is a contributor to all these other things, so I had to work harder to reverse these conditions and as of now, I have not used man made synthetic drugs. That is another conversation I will get to in a few minutes. So the conversation ended with this man saying, “Ok”. Of course it is okay, and as he said, I am not his woman anyway. Lord deliver me!
It was February when I got my Celiac Disease (CD) diagnoses. At that time I was in the dark other than knowing I needed to avoid gluten and it is in wheat. As I started detoxing, I began having uncontrollable panic attacks. Having been on and then off anti-depressants prior to that, I knew I needed do something that did not include pharmaceutical drugs. So I began doing research. I learned that bread/wheat has an opiate effect on the brain and when detoxing completely, depression and panic attacks are status quo. Then I found medical reports from Italy that stated that CBD from marijuana can calm the gut to promote the healing of CD damage, as well as benefit sufferers of depression and panic attacks. Lucky for me I live in Colorado and was able to obtain a medical marijuana card. I shared my plan with a friend of more than 20 years for whom I thought would be encouraged that I was finding answers to help my situations. That did not happen. I was called stupid and a dupe user. I was floored. I was simply expressing that I was finally getting relief, but this person condemned me for doing that which is within the law and healthier than pills. WOW. All this expressed from a person with HBP, diabetes and a number of other ailments, taking a handful of pills while eating badly and staying obese. We are no longer friends. It is a shame, but everyone is not going to be on you team when you try to change for the better.
So the big question is, and sorry white people, this is not about you…WHY IS BEING FAT OR OBESE, UNHEALTHY OR MEDICATED, SO ACCEPTABLE AMONG WOMEN OF COLOR? WHY DO INTELLIGENT WOMEN OF COLOR, STAY FAT AND UNHEALTHY? WHY DO MEN OF COLOR FEEL THAT IF THEIR FEMALE COUNTER PART IS TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT, THEY ARE SEEKING TO GET SKINNY OR LOOK LIKE A WHITE WOMAN? WHEN WILL PEOPLE REALIZE THAT THEY ARE WHAT THEY EAT AND TO BE HEALTHIER, ONE MUST EAT HEALTHIER AND THAT PILLS MASK SYMPTOMS NOT FIX PROBLEMS?
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Having the stresses of caring for a child with health concerns and going through the termination of a failed marriage, I developed my own chronic health issues. and survived a stroke. My personal experience and research of stroke and autoimmune diseases, lead me to help myself and others.